dirty roots X

Submission as Service: Embracing Power, Purpose, and the Primal Dark Side

In this episode of Dirty Roots X, we talk about submission and how it serves a purpose beyond sex. For us, it’s about how surrendering in the right way gives both partners more focus, power, and a deeper connection.
We discuss what it feels like to control or be controlled, and how those moments of giving in or taking charge push us toward growth, both personally and as a couple.
Between denying an orgasm or doing something simple like starting dinner, it’s all about the balance and the impact those dynamics can have on our lives, not just in the bedroom.
This episode is raw and full of moments where we push each other’s boundaries—both for fun and for growth. If you're curious about how submission and dominance can change your relationship or your mindset, give this one a listen. It’s about letting go and seeing where that takes you.
 
-Adam

Contracts, Rules, and Power Dynamics: Why We Ditched the Rulebook for Something Hotter

In this episode of dirty roots X, we talk about how we manage expectations and boundaries in our relationship without formal contracts or a list of strict rules. We’ve found that what works best for us is a more flexible approach—a general understanding of how we want to interact, rather than something written in stone. We talk openly about the importance of trust, communication, and being present in the moment, which keeps our dynamic strong and our connection natural. This is how we keep things fun, engaging, and healthy without turning our relationship into a set of rules to follow.
 
Key themes: dominance and submission, trust, boundaries, communication, and maintaining a balanced power dynamic.

Why Your Emotions Don't Matter in D/s: The Power of Letting Go & Embracing the Dark Side"

In this episode of Dirty Roots X, we talk about why emotions-especially Aggie's-really do not matter within our Dominant/submissive relationship. I know that sounds cold-hearted and cruel, but bear with me. Emotions are subject to change, and if we based our decisions on how Aggie feels at any given time, our relationship would become chaotic and directionless.
I listen to Aggie's feelings, but at the same time, I don't let her emotions dictate what we can and cannot do.
She may not feel like meditating or working out, yet that does not change the fact. Her emotional state is not a deciding factor since emotions are short-lived; they come and go, often for no specific reason. Giving in to them only empowers them further and contributes to instability. Instead, I focus on what's important in the bigger picture to her, not just in how it makes her feel at any given moment.
It only got worse when I used to pay more attention to her emotions. Aggie was more upset, and the dynamic between us was ruined. But once I stopped feeling obligated by her emotional state to make decisions, she felt more confident, and our relationship has been stronger. We briefly discuss how this has helped her in handling her emotions more appropriately-she can catch herself before flying off the handle of emotions. In this episode, the talk is pegged on why emotions shouldn't drive a D/s dynamic and how this practice, as a matter of fact, depends on the dismissal of the passing feelings which may indeed cement the bond between the dominant and the submissive.
-Adam

Breaking the Rules: Trust, Submission, and Flexibility in a D/s Relationship

In this episode, Aggie and I sit down to talk about one of the more frequent occurrences in D/s relationships: rules. Well, spoiler alert—neither of us is a fan of inflexible guidelines. Instead, we share why our dynamic works so well on clear expectations, mutual respect, and just knowing one another innately rather than relying on some kind of exhaustive list detailing dos and don'ts.
We'll explore how the rules, though desirable for some, often get in the way of our connection and spontaneity. From playful moments of authority to recognizing when a situation calls for more tenderness, the focus is always on how to remain present with each other and not hooked into strict protocols. Aggie and I reflect on how this has kept our relationship fluid and sexy without restrictions.
-Adam

What It Means to Be a Submissive: Trust, Power, and Letting Go in BDSM

In this episode of Dirty Roots X, we explore what it means to be a submissive in our Dominant/Submissive (D/s) relationship. Aggie talks about her experience of submission, how she embraces her role, and the challenges that come with it. We discuss the power dynamics at play, how she willingly gives me control, and her trust which is essential for making it work.
Aggie shares what turns her on about being submissive—specifically, the power and control I have over her. We talk about how her submission isn’t about losing herself but finding strength in letting go. It’s not always easy, especially because she’s naturally dominant in other aspects of her life, but it’s this push and pull that makes our dynamic so engaging.
We also talk about the importance of trust and how building that trust over time has allowed us to explore deeper levels of connection. Aggie opens up about her process of letting go—trusting me to take the lead and guide us, even when it’s difficult. She explains that embracing her dark side and not caring what others think has been key to fully stepping into her submissive role.
We go into the mindset of a submissive, the complexities of power exchange, and the importance of exploring her fantasies without fear. Aggie talks about how integrating submission into everyday life keeps her engaged and how she maintains her submissive mindset throughout the day.
-Adam

What It Really Means to Be a Dom: Balancing Power, Control, and Dark Desires

In this episode we talk about what dominance means in our relationship.
For me, dominance isn’t just about control—it’s about leadership and knowing when to lead with care versus when to tap into my darker side. It's a mix of being the guiding force, making decisions so Aggie doesn’t have to, and embracing the raw, unapologetic aspects of control that we both enjoy.
We explore how dominance can be about everyday actions, not just in the bedroom. I talk about how integrating commands and subtle acts of dominance into our daily lives keeps the dynamic alive, creating a continuous connection that extends beyond scenes.
I also share how important it is for me to put myself first. Self-care, like meditation and taking time to de-stress, helps me show up fully in my role. By prioritizing my needs, I have the mental space to lead confidently and effectively.
I get into the value of understanding the deeper motivations behind dominance and embracing both the light and dark sides of yourself. I think it’s not about always being the “good Dom” or fitting a specific mold. It’s about being true to who you are and finding confidence in your authentic expression of dominance.
Tune in as I tell you what it’s like to be dominant in a D/s relationship, balancing leadership, control, and authenticity in a way that keeps our connection strong and dynamic.
-Adam

Master Commands in BDSM: How Verbal Control Fuels Power Dynamics (and Keeps Things Hot)

In this episode Aggie and I break down the role of commands in our Dominant/Submissive relationship. I think commands go beyond basic instructions—they’re key tools that create connection, establish control, and deepen intimacy. They shape our dynamic, setting the tone and reinforcing the power exchange in and out of the bedroom.
For the submissive, following commands can be an act of surrender and a way to express their desire to please. We’ve found that integrating commands into everyday life—not just during scenes—keeps our D/s dynamic alive and hot as fuck.
We also discuss the importance of timing and context. A well-timed command can elevate the submissive’s experience, but the same command at the wrong moment can cause discomfort. It’s all about being observant and attuned to each other’s emotional state, which makes the dynamic more responsive and fulfilling.
I will tell you how commands can build anticipation and keep the connection strong, using simple directives to engage the submissive’s mindset throughout the day. Commands can also be used for emotional regulation, helping to shift moods and provide a sense of grounding within the D/s relationship.
Tune in to listenhow I use commands to enhance my Dominant/Submissive relationship, keeping the connection dynamic, fluid, and deeply engaging.
-Adam

Why Orgasm Denial Has Us Having the Best Sex Ever: The Secret to Non-Stop Desire

In this episode, Aggie and I dig into orgasm control—a powerful tool in Dominant/Submissive relationships that’s often overlooked. It’s more than just denying an orgasm; it’s about keeping both partners in a heightened state of arousal, which deepens intimacy and strengthens the dynamic.
I willtell you a bit how orgasm control creates a psychological edge in ourD/s relationship. It’s not just about physical acts; it’s about a dominant maintaining influence even outside the bedroom. This control keeps the submissive mentally engaged, reinforcing their role and connection throughout daily life.
We also dive into the emotional security that comes from constant arousal. When we are focused on eachother’s pleasure—or the denial of it—everyday stress and conflicts feel less significant. There’s always a sexual undercurrent that helps keep the connection strong, even in tough moments.
I will tell you how the simplicity of restraint and how small acts of dominance, like a firm grip or a guiding touch, can be as impactful as elaborate scenes. It’s about finding those raw, spontaneous moments that reinforce the power dynamic without the need for props.
We will paint you a nice picture how orgasm control turns our everyday interactions into a form of ongoing foreplay! Without regular release, we’re always in a state of readiness, making every touch or glance part of a larger, continuous sexual dialogue. Seriously - It’s a way to keep the connection alive and charged (you must try it!!!!!!)
Tune in to hear how orgasm control has transformed our D/s dynamic, enhancing our intimacy and redefining how we experience pleasure and power.
-Adam

Flirting with the Dark Side: How Embracing Your Inner Kink Can Strengthen Your Relationship

Today we’re taking on a crucial topic in Dominant/Submissive relationships: embracing your dark side. Society often pushes us to be our “best selves,” which usually means hiding anything that doesn’t fit the mold—flaws, darker impulses, or desires. But we know thatsuppressing these parts doesn’t make them disappear-it just forces them to manifest in harmful ways.
Listen why acknowledging and integrating your dark side is essential in our D/s dynamic as it’s not about glorifying negative behavior—it’s about recognizing these aspects as part of who you are and finding healthy ways to channel them.
I also dive into the difference between striving for a “perfect self” versus embracing your true self. It’s not about fixing what isn’t broken but about accepting every facet of who you are, even the messy parts. In D/s relationships, this authenticity is key; it’s what makes the power exchange real and powerful between us.
I will tell you about couple of my practical steps like Dark Side Meditation, acknowledging desires without acting on them, and challenging societal judgments. Ultimately, for us embracing your dark side isn’t just about self-acceptance—it’s about reclaiming power in our Dominant/Submissive relationship.
Tune in, and let’s dive into the shadows together.
-Adam

Why We Reject Collars in BDSM: Power, Rebellion, and Redefining Dominance

In this episode, we cover the topic of collaring in Dominant/Submissive relationships—a common symbol of commitment and power exchange. For many, a collar is like a wedding ring, representing ownership, trust, and the unique dynamic between partners. But for Aggie and me, it just doesn’t resonate.
We see collars as symbols that can imply subordination, which clashes with our vision of a D/s relationship where strength is celebrated, not diminished. Our dynamic thrives on mutual respect and the natural flow of power, not on external markers that could feel more like constraints than connections.
We talk about how symbols like collars can lose their meaning over time, becoming routine rather than intentional reminders of the bond. For us, true connection is found in the moments we share, not in objects or rituals. We’ve chosen to celebrate our relationship without the need for conventional symbols, focusing on authenticity, intention, and the unspoken energy that defines our dynamic.
So if you’re exploring your own Dominant/Submissive journey, tune in as we dive deep into why collaring isn’t right for us—and maybe it’ll help you decide what’s truly meaningful for you.
 
-Adam