Why We Reject Collars in BDSM: Power, Rebellion, and Redefining Dominance

In this episode, we cover the topic of collaring in Dominant/Submissive relationships—a common symbol of commitment and power exchange. For many, a collar is like a wedding ring, representing ownership, trust, and the unique dynamic between partners. But for Aggie and me, it just doesn’t resonate.

We see collars as symbols that can imply subordination, which clashes with our vision of a D/s relationship where strength is celebrated, not diminished. Our dynamic thrives on mutual respect and the natural flow of power, not on external markers that could feel more like constraints than connections.

We talk about how symbols like collars can lose their meaning over time, becoming routine rather than intentional reminders of the bond. For us, true connection is found in the moments we share, not in objects or rituals. We’ve chosen to celebrate our relationship without the need for conventional symbols, focusing on authenticity, intention, and the unspoken energy that defines our dynamic.

So if you’re exploring your own Dominant/Submissive journey, tune in as we dive deep into why collaring isn’t right for us—and maybe it’ll help you decide what’s truly meaningful for you.

 

-Adam

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